What if you disagree with me?
What if you think that balance is a destination?
That it’s a place you can move toward, reach, and stay?
I’d say that, technically speaking, based on a strict look at the definition, you’re not totally wrong.
destination: the place to which someone or something is going or being sent.
Pedantic? Maybe. But wrong? No.
I’ll still disagree, but we can agree to disagree. That’s okay.
Here’s the thing though …
What benefit do you derive from viewing balance as a destination? Because I only see downside. Even if I grant you that balance can technically be a destination, you can’t deny that your stay is inevitably going to be short.
And that’s where the problem lies.
Because if you choose to view balance as a destination, then when you get “there” you might feel like you’ve arrived, and that you’re going to stay.
This is a thought process that will cause problems.
It will tempt you into letting your guard down. It will compel you to lose focus on the intentional choices you had been making that got you there.
And nothing will jettison you quicker from a place of balance than forgetting the process it took to get there.
This sounds ominous and hard, even painstaking. But it’s not.
You can learn to fall in love with the process of working toward balance so much that you never even worry about the destination. The process itself becomes the reward. The destination then takes on the role it’s meant to have: focal point, not end point.
Have you ever been on an airplane, reading a book, and so engrossed in the book that you’re crestfallen when the captain comes on and lets you know it’s time to land?
Or in the car, listening to music, and a 4-minute song comes on when you’re one minute away from your destination?
In those moments, you were in love with the journey over the destination. In fact, you wanted to delay the destination so you could continue your love affair with the journey.
How can you find ways to incorporate this same feeling into your everyday life while moving in the direction of your most important focal points?
Answer this question, and you won’t even have to worry about the downside of viewing balance as a destination.
You’ll be too engrossed in the journey.