You’re not as special as you may think you are.
Guess what? Neither am I.
Then again, maybe you don’t think you’re special. In that case, I should let you know that you are special — more so than you may think.
Well isn’t that a contradiction, and a conundrum.
The key, as always, is finding a balance between the extremes.
Here’s how successful entrepreneur and investor Jon Westenberg describes this dichotomy.
The chances are, you’re not as hot as you think, and when that comes home to roost, it’s incredibly damaging to you. For you own good, and for the sake of your own resilience, you have to let go of the concept that you deserve to make it.
Which is not to say that you can’t be confident. You do have to believe in yourself, and you do have to have a little faith. But there’s a big difference between that, and between honestly or subconsciously thinking that the big break is coming because you deserve it. There’s a difference between expecting, and earning.
If you can reach that point of self awareness, and start to accept that you’re not a special snowflake by default, you might be able to gain a little more understanding and become something special.
Read the entire piece here: I used to think I was awesome. Google burned that dream
It should be noted, Westenberg is discussing “entitled founders” of companies — a group of folks that often finds itself too far along the pride end of the I’m special/I’m not special spectrum.
Chances are, you naturally drift to one end more than the other. I know I do. I find myself fighting a prideful belief in my own entitlement every day. Humility is the perfect antidote — when I am intentional about practicing it.
Which end are you on?
Do you believe you’re too special … or not special enough?
And what action can you take right now to pull yourself more toward the center of the spectrum?
All we control is this moment.
Be better now …
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